Finding Your Space
Why You Feel Like You Don’t Belong & How to Finally Find Where You Fit
Let’s be real.
Feeling like you don’t belong isn’t just uncomfortable—it’s exhausting.
Walking into rooms where no one quite gets you. Smiling through conversations that don’t light you up. Wondering if you’re just wired differently from everyone else.
For years, I felt like I was speaking a different language.
I could be surrounded by people—friends, family, colleagues—and still feel like I was watching life from the outside. I tried to adjust. Shrink. Make myself easier to digest. But no matter how much I twisted myself to fit the mold… I still didn’t belong.
And maybe you’ve felt that too.
👉 Why do I never quite fit in?
👉 Why do I feel things so deeply when no one else seems to care?
👉 Am I just too different?
But here’s what I need you to know:
💡 You are not lost. You are not broken. You are not meant to fit in where you don’t belong.
The fact that you feel this way? It’s not a mistake. It’s an invitation.
The Truth About Not Belonging
We grow up believing that belonging = blending in.
That we need to conform, follow the script, be more like them.
But what if I told you that feeling like an outsider is actually a clue that you’re meant for something bigger?
Think about it.
✨ Steve Jobs? Misfit.
✨ Oprah? Outsider.
✨ Frida Kahlo? Rebel.
They didn’t fit in because they weren’t meant to. They were meant to lead, innovate, and shift the culture.
And so are you.
If you’ve been feeling like you don’t belong, here’s what might actually be happening:
Three Reasons You Feel Like You Don’t Belong
1️⃣ You’re Growing Beyond Your Current Environment
Ever been in a conversation and suddenly realized… you just don’t resonate with it anymore?
That’s growth.
You’re evolving beyond the spaces you once fit into. And that’s not a failure—it’s a sign of expansion.
2️⃣ You Haven’t Found Your True People Yet
If you’re a deep thinker, a heart-centered leader, or someone with big dreams, chances are, your people aren’t in the most obvious places.
They exist—you just might have to look beyond what’s familiar.
3️⃣ You Were Never Meant to Fit Into a System That Wasn’t Designed for You
Society teaches us that belonging means conforming. But some of us were never meant to play by those rules.
If you’ve felt this way since childhood, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you’re here to create something new.
How to Find Where You Truly Belong
So what do you do when you feel like you don’t fit anywhere?
You stop forcing yourself into places that were never meant for you—and you start finding (or building) the space that was.
Here’s how:
Step 1: Redefine What Belonging Means
Belonging isn’t about squeezing yourself into a mold—it’s about being fully yourself and being loved for it.
Instead of asking:
🚫 Where do I fit?
✅ Where do I feel most alive?
Step 2: Follow Your Resonance
Pay attention to where you feel the most seen and understood. Maybe it’s in a creative space, a spiritual community, a movement, or even an online group.
Sometimes your people aren’t where you thought they’d be.
Step 3: Own Your Difference
What if the thing that makes you feel like an outsider is actually your greatest strength?
Instead of changing yourself to fit in, start embracing what makes you unique.
Step 4: Build the Space You Wish Existed
If you can’t find your people, create the space yourself.
Start the conversations, build the community, and trust that the right people will find you.
What Happens When You Stop Forcing Belonging?
I can tell you what happened for me.
The second I stopped trying to fit into places that drained me… everything changed.
✨ My relationships deepened.
✨ My work became more meaningful.
✨ I stopped feeling exhausted from performing all the time.
💡 I realized I wasn’t lost—I was just looking in the wrong places.
And maybe that’s true for you, too.
💛 You don’t need to change to fit in. You just need to find where you truly belong.