How to Use Fear to Step Into Your True Potential

Let me guess—you’re standing at the edge of something big. You feel it in your bones. There’s a pull, a quiet whisper telling you it’s time to step into a bigger version of yourself. But then, almost instantly, that knot in your stomach tightens. Fear kicks in, and suddenly, the excitement turns into a swirl of ‘what ifs.’

Sound familiar? I get it. That gut-wrenching, soul-shaking feeling is enough to make you want to crawl back to what’s safe and familiar. But what if I told you that fear—that very thing you’re trying to avoid—is the key to unlocking the life you’ve been dreaming of?

Fear Isn’t Your Enemy—It’s Your Compass

I know, it sounds a little crazy, right? We’re conditioned to think that fear is something to push away, to escape from, or better yet, to ignore altogether. But here’s the thing: Fear isn’t a roadblock. It’s a signpost. It’s the universe saying, “Hey, you’re on the edge of something important. Pay attention!”

I’ve seen it time and time again with clients. Just when they’re on the brink of stepping into their greatness, fear shows up like an uninvited guest. But instead of running, we lean in. We explore what’s underneath. And guess what? Fear always points to where the most growth lies.

Why Fear Shows Up When You're Ready to Expand

Here’s the truth you need to hear today: Fear shows up when you’re about to move into new territory—territory that’s unfamiliar, uncomfortable, and exciting all at the same time. That’s why it feels so intense! It’s not because you’re meant to stop. It’s because you’re about to step into something bigger than you’ve ever known before.

Think about it: every time you’ve been on the verge of something great, fear has been there, hasn’t it? Whether it’s launching that business, making a big career shift, or showing up authentically in your relationships, fear is like the final hurdle before you break through.

Expansive Fear vs. Constrictive Fear: Learn to Feel the Difference

Now, let’s get clear on something: not all fear is the same. There’s fear that keeps you safe (like, don’t walk too close to the edge of a cliff), and then there’s expansive fear. Expansive fear is that butterfly-in-your-stomach, heart-racing kind of fear that shows up when you’re on the verge of something new and exciting.

When you feel that, lean in. That’s the fear that’s telling you: “This is the next step in your journey.”

But how do you know which is which? Here’s a little trick I give my clients: Pay attention to how the fear feels in your body. Constrictive fear feels heavy, tight, like a ‘no.’ Expansive fear, on the other hand, feels more like butterflies—nervous, yes, but also exciting. It’s the kind of fear that says, “This feels scary, but I have to do it.”

Take The Step, Even When You’re Scared

Here’s the thing about fear: It’s not going away. (I know, bummer, right?) But the good news is, you don’t need it to go away. You just need to take one small step in spite of it.

I had a client who was paralyzed by fear when it came to public speaking. She knew deep down that her next step was to share her message on stage, but fear kept whispering, “You’re not good enough.” Instead of running from it, we embraced that fear. She took one small step by agreeing to a speaking gig. Was she terrified? Yep. Did she do it anyway? Absolutely. And now? Speaking has become one of her greatest strengths.

That’s what happens when you take action, even when you’re scared. You expand. You grow. You start to live the life you’re meant to live.

You Have What It Takes—Trust It

I see you. You’re standing at the edge, wondering if you have what it takes. You do. That fear you feel? It’s not a sign that something’s wrong. It’s a sign that something big is about to happen.

So, what’s one fear you’ve been avoiding? Maybe it’s stepping into a new career, starting that project that’s been on your heart for years, or finally showing up as your true self in your relationships. Whatever it is, let today be the day you take one small step toward it.

Because on the other side of that fear? Your greatest expansion.

Ready To Dive Deeper?

If you’re ready to explore what’s holding you back and move through fear into your fullest potential, I’m here for you. Book a free clarity call. Let’s work together to turn that fear into your greatest guide.

Here’s to your expansion—fear and all. 💫