When Your Identity Is Dying, and Your Soul Is Waking Up
There is a moment in your journey that no one prepares you for. It is not the big win, the new job, the new partner, the fresh start, or even the ending of a relationship. It is the quiet realization that you can no longer stay who you have been. Something in your body whispers that this version of you is complete, even when your life still looks perfectly fine on the surface.
That moment is an identity death. It is subtle and disorienting. It feels like something inside you is melting, and you can no longer pretend you do not feel it.
In my recent conversation on Your Tru Awakening with athlete and wellness entrepreneur Stanley Sarpong, we explored this exact experience. The moment when an old identity dissolves, and the new one has not landed yet. The in between. The void. The portal.
Stanley described identity in a way I loved. A design. A set of features. A color palette. Something you shape intentionally. Something you evolve. Something you choose. He grew up between Ghana and the Netherlands and carries the language, the culture, the rhythm, the duality, and the complexity of both. His identity is not a single label. It is a layered expression. It is living art.
Your identity works the same way. It is the languages you speak. The cities that shaped you. The heartbreaks that cracked you open. The achievements that taught you discipline. The loves that changed your nervous system. The moments that made you trust yourself again. Identity is not a box. It is an ecosystem.
The pain comes when we forget that we are allowed to evolve. When we cling to the old role because it once made us feel safe. When we try to stay loyal to a version of ourselves that has already outgrown its own life.
I have seen this in so many leaders and creators. The quiet burnout. The subtle resentment. The feeling of being disconnected from your own achievements. This is not a lack of gratitude. It is a sign that your identity has shifted, and the outer world has not caught up.
This is where your body becomes your guide. Stanley and I spoke about the body as a planet. Your fascia, your breath, your nervous system, your energy field. All of it carries the imprint of your past identities. The roles you played. The expectations you absorbed. The impact your body held for years.
When you move, breathe, release tension, and listen to your body, you are not only healing physically. You are creating space for the next version of you to land. You are clearing the emotional residue of the old identity. You are opening room for creativity, vitality, and a deeper aligned expression.
Identity work is not just spiritual. It is somatic. It is cellular. It is nervous system based. It is a remembrance of who you are underneath every performance.
We also explored communication and emotional intelligence. The way we speak comes from three inner places. The critical parent. The wounded child. The conscious adult. When you notice these shifts in yourself, you begin to relate from truth rather than survival. You create harmony inside yourself and your relationships. When you communicate from the adult state, you become the author of your life, not the actor trapped in a script.
This is the season so many people find themselves in. The quiet unraveling of the old identity. The mysterious forming of the new one. The return to roots. The desire for belonging. The longing for a life that aligns with your soul instead of your performance.
If you are in this transition, here is what I want you to know. You are not lost. You are not behind. You are not broken. You are in a sacred corridor. The in between. The chrysalis. The space where your next identity is gathering itself inside your body before it reveals itself to the world.
Your next identity is not a new title or a new role. It is a deeper relationship with your own essence. The one that has always been there behind the changing clothes, the changing jobs, the changing relationships, the changing versions.
If you are ready to be supported in this transition, I would love to walk with you. This is the work I guide clients through: identity recalibration, emotional integration, nervous system restoration, and soul-aligned creation.
Listen to the full episode with Stanley Sarpong to begin activating this new chapter within yourself. And if you are ready for deeper support, you can book a call with me and step into the identity that is already calling your name.
You are becoming. And your soul is leading.
Connect with Stanley Sarpong:
Instagram @sarpong and @elretomariposa